I was watching a video recently by Dr Daniel Amen who teaches about how having a healthy brain gives you a better life. There were a lot of very good points that he made in the video but one thing that he said that really stuck out for me was this:

At 18 years old you worry about what people will think about you. At 40 years old you dont care what people think about you. At 60 years old you realise that people aren’t thinking about you at all, they are just thinking about themselves.

Now, far be it from me to argue with Dr Amen, but I really do think he has got the ages wrong.

I think it takes us all way too long to learn the lesson and realise that others aren’t thinking about us anywhere near as much as we believe we are.

I certainly don’t believe that the majority of us get to 40 and have stopped worrying about what others think of us.

So why does it matter? Why raise the point?

Well because worrying about what other people think of you or will think of you if you pursue a certain path or take some kind of action, can and does stop you from being, doing and having what you want in life and in your business.

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We don’t play with abandon as we did when we were children in case people think we are foolish or mad.

We don’t ask for the help we need in case people think we are stupid, or weak or lacking in some way.

We don’t ask our potential clients for their business in case people think we are too pushy.

I have lost count of the number of people I have come across over the years who would rather stick pins in their own eyes than stand on stage presenting what they know to a room full of people. What is that if it is not limiting yourself and your business because you are worried about what other people will think.

On a personal level, I know my 40th birthday came and went long before I stopped worrying so much about what other people would think about me. I still care, especially what my family, friends and clients think but I have stopped worrying, especially about the opinions of people I don’t know and will probably never know, and who certainly don’t know me. I can tell you it is liberating and it is empowering and my business especially has benefitted and with that the clients I serve.

What about You? Are you holding back because you worry what people think – be honest now!!.

I’m willing to bet the answer is Yes!

Don’t hide away by yourself, come and join us in The Coaches’ Zone Facebook Group and let me help you to get past this nasty little bit of mind mischief!